What Are the Solutions?
There are a number of possible solutions or steps one can take to combat PE and last longer during sexual intercourse. Some of these methods include mental and physical distractions, which take time and practice to see results, while others require the use of a product like sprays, and creams but are more immediate in their effectiveness and results. STUD 100® has proven to be the best, easiest, and most trusted way for over 50 years.
It may seem obvious, but one way to extend the length of sexual intercourse is to add more activities to it. Instead of immediately penetrating upon arousal, start with other sexual activities. Long make-out sessions, oral sex, using some toys or perhaps even adding role-play situations into the bedroom too. These activities extend the overall sexual experience so that if the penetration part of sex is shorter, there has already been a lot more stimulation and excitement, especially for your partner. You can also take breaks in between sexual acts. Perform one for a while and then switch to something else. Mix it up and add a little variety. Thinking about these other activities or transitioning between different ones can also act as a mental distraction, which is another technique you can use.
In the heat of the moment, emotions can become extremely intense, feelings of sexual excitement reach their peak and nothing else outside the bedroom matters or even exists. While it is great to focus on your partner and what you are doing, that complete concentration can lead to quicker orgasms. If you feel you are getting close, a distraction could help ease you back and give you some more control. As you start to feel things progressing and reaching a height, think about something totally unrelated to sex and the situation at hand. Perhaps it’s a car, your taxes, or even what’s for dinner tomorrow. Whatever works as a temporary distraction to calm you and slow down the inevitable release.
Communication is key in any and every relationship, platonic or romantic. Partners should be able to address any concerns or problems within the relationship without fear of guilt or rejection. An understanding partner can lead to a happier relationship. When it comes to PE, discussing it with your partner can help them understand the situation and lower expectations. When those expectations are lowered, and both parties know what to expect, the stress and anxiety of the situation decreases which can help with PE. When you aren’t worried about finishing too fast, your mind and body can relax, which can help to prolong your sexual experience too.
In order to reduce the sensitivity or immediate sensations from sexual intercourse, you can masturbate 1-2 hours before having sex. Reaching orgasm thought masturbation can reduce the intensity of the stimulation later in the evening when having sex with your partner. This method cannot always be trusted as the duration between masturbation and sex could vary, and you would also need to know exactly when you are having sex. That is entirely possible in a long-term relationship but for passionate spur of the moment sexual encounters, planning to “rub one out” a few hours before is precarious at best.
The Squeeze Technique:
With the Squeeze technique, the goal is to pinch and squeeze the penis just before the moment of climax to prevent the orgasm from occurring. During stimulation, as you begin to feel the intensity increase and the moment of orgasm seems just around the corner, gently but firmly, squeeze the tip of the penis, just below the head, with the thumb and forefinger for 20 seconds. Then release the pinch and carry on. This one can be tricky because if you wait too long, you end up with a bit of a mess on your hands. It is definitely something to practice alone first.
The Start-and-Stop Technique:
The start-and-stop technique, also known as “edging,” is a technique that men often use to increase the sexual pleasure during masturbation, but can also be done during intercourse, and as a method to help with PE. Just as the orgasm is building, stop all stimulation for about 30 seconds or until the feeling of orgasms subsides and you regain control. The then start stimulation again. With practice, you can learn to better sense when an orgasm is imminent and pause your actions to prevent ejaculation. The other benefit is that the excitement and euphoria that comes just before the orgasm is extended, making the orgasm more intense. These results are not achievable immediately and take time and dedication. It takes practice to get to the point of almost orgasming and being able to stop. Men who suffer from PE have an incredibly fast path from stimulation to orgasm, and this technique can help to flatten that incline and extend the duration of arousal, delaying the time it takes to orgasm.
While most people think that Kegel exercises are only for women, they can actually be done by men to help strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor. The exercises were originally developed by Dr. Arnold Kegel as a means to treat various forms of pelvic dysfunction. They strengthen and tone the muscles in the area, which can help with controlling the muscles that lead to ejaculation. Having a strong control of these muscles can result in delaying ejaculation and extending sexual intercourse. There is also the benefit, the same one for women, of having stronger orgasms too. Kegel exercises are easy enough to do. The first step is finding the right muscles. The easiest way I identify the correct muscles is to stop urination mid stream or clench the muscles as if you are trying to hold in gas. These are the muscles that you need to work. The technique involves tightening these muscles, holding the contraction for 3-5 seconds, and then releasing. Repeat for a set of 10 at least 3 times a day. You can do these exercises lying down, sitting, or standing. Mix them into your everyday routine like when you’re waiting for the toaster, coffee maker, or while you brush your teeth, even while you watch your favourite show. Again, this solution is a long-play solution, so results will not appear immediately.
Different Sexual Positions:
Certain positions during sexual intercourse can help to increase the time it takes to orgasm. They can work because they require more concentration or physical exertion to perform, reduce the length and depth of thrusting which reduces the stimulation of the penis, use a grinding motion instead of thrusting which also decreases the stimulation, or focus on the woman’s pleasure instead of the man’s. By performing sexual intercourse in these positions, you can delay the amount of stimulation you receive which in turn delays the point of orgasm. It’s also fun to try new positions and new activities with your partner to discover new erogenous zones and different levels of pleasure for both of you.
Here are a few positions you can try:
Spooning is one of the best positions to help you last longer because the penetration is fairly shallow, meaning there aren’t long strokes or thrusts. Simply lie on your sides as if you were cuddling, you acting as the big spoon, and penetrate from this position. It may be tricky to find the right spot at first, so lift your partner’s leg guide your penis with your hand to hit the right spot. Concentrate more on a grinding motion rather than thrusting during penetration as well.
This position is similar to spooning, but instead of facing the same way, you face each other. The initial penetration can be a bit tricky, especially with a height difference, so have her lift her leg up and wrap it around your waist. Like Spooning, there
won’t be very deep penetration so there’s less stimulation. It’s also a romantic position that you can both enjoy as you look into each other’s eyes, having a much more intimate experience. This more position can lead to more passionate sex, making it more romantic and not just an activity.
Alternate Missionary Positions:
Missionary position can have fast results due to it strictly being about thrusting, but some slight alterations to it can change the experience enough to help you last longer. The first is the Grinding Missionary, where instead of thrusting, you grind against her after penetration. With less thrusting, there is a less strong stimulation to the penis. Another variation would be Missionary Outercourse, where instead of penetrating, the penis rests between the labia, and you grind against her, rubbing her clitoris. There is plenty of stimulation for both parties here, but it’s less intense than penetration, which means you last longer.
The classic 69 position is great for dual stimulation for both you and her. It’s very easy and can be done laying down on your sides or on top of each other. Simply lie down head-to-toe facing each other, line up your faces with each other’s genitals and then indulge away! This position gives both of you pleasure and you can put your focus on pleasuring your partner, possibly distracting you from your own stimulation, which can help to delay your orgasm.
PE is often the result of physical overstimulation, meaning the penis is sensitive and any sort of stimulation has a fast reaction. Slowing down the stimulation, or at least the process of stimulation is a great way to combat PE. There are a number of products on the market from sprays, to creams that can be applied to the penis directly that cause a numbing sensation. These products are often applied to the genitals prior to sex and absorbed after 15 to 30 minutes. There are also thicker condoms you can use that can help and act as a barrier, though they may be less effective than the sprays or creams. It is important to follow the instructions of these products, even washing the genitals after the product has been absorbed into the skin to prevent any transfer of the numbing sensation to your partner. This solution is quick, effective, and easily attainable as the sprays and creams don’t generally need any doctor consultation. They are the most common solution because they are safe and give instant results.
If you feel that the cause of PE is psychological, emotional, or possibly the result of issues within your relationship, seeing a trained mental health professional could help. Sex therapists and couples therapists deal with issues like this on a regular basis so they have the training and expertise needed to help. Some of the mental causes could be linked to performance anxiety, depression, stress, or guilt. Acknowledging and addressing these issues lead to a healthier mental state and a healthier approach to sexual relationships. However, therapy can be expensive, time-consuming, and isn’t guaranteed to work.
Because all these methods mentioned are designed to slow the stimulation of the penis which results in longer times to reach orgasm, one of the best, easiest, and most trusted methods is desensitization with a spray like STUD 100®.STUD 100® is quick and easy and has been giving men amazing results for over 50 years. It uses lidocaine, a common numbing agent used in the dental profession, in a formula that has been perfected over the years. There is a reason men and their partners keep returning to STUD 100®: IT WORKS.